Freedom To Give

“I can’t give you that which you demand of me.” – Wayne Dyer

This quote above from Dr. Wayne Dyer completely encapsulates our message of the Freedom To Give.

It’s also the inspiration for it, and opens the doorway to understanding and gaining insight into many of the subtleties of life which are affected by it.

To clarify fully, what we are saying here is that one cannot freely give something that has previously been demanded. It may be handed over, or acquiesced to, but not freely so.

Only when we are free to give can we actually do so freely. Anything else is either yielding, (or not), to a pressuring demand, and so, if handed over, only when subject to the influence of that pressure.

So with an understanding of this wisdom, one thing that we have developed is an awareness of when we are not free to give, so we can respond accordingly, often avoiding the situation wherever possible, and perhaps, also, at our discretion, making people aware that they are not giving us the room to give.

Imagine someone comes to your door collecting items for a charity sale. According to the energy, expectancy and outlook of the person asking for gifts you might either feel that they are simply asking, in which case making you feel free to say either yes or no, or that they are expecting it of you, perhaps with implied threat of judgement or disapproval if you do not ‘give’ to help.

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This is nothing to do with the rights and wrongs of whether you do a certain thing or not, the point is that when things are done freely the result is purer; healthy, positive and harmonious.

We might even find that we sense varying degrees of freedom with each scenario, perhaps feeling mostly free to give something, but not completely so.

Education, for example, when requested by the student, is always much more flowing and fruitful than compulsory teachings.

Intangible things also

Freedom to give goes beyond simply physical things. Literally anywhere there is an expectation it is possible that we are not giving, or being given, the freedom to choose to give something, do something, think something, and so forth.

Let’s say it’s Valentine’s Day, or Mother’s Day, or Father’s Day, or someone’s birthday. Is it accepted by the other person if we don’t provide flowers, champagne, dinner, a card… ? Or if the roles are reversed, would it be okay with us if our nearest and dearest happened to chose not to provide them for us? If not, then our friends and relatives are not free to give to us because we expect it of them anyway. Or the other way around, we are not free to give to them.

“Want for the other person what they want for themselves; a definition of love.” – Lester Levenson

And we also have to be careful if we give, too. Are we giving the other person the room to respond as they choose? Or are we expecting, or even insisting that they respond in the way in which we would like, that is the response we are expecting? Are we thinking “They’d better like this and appreciate this… They’d better appreciate what I’m doing for them.”? If so, then there’s not much freedom for them to respond as they see fit in that. Even on a subtler level, we might be a bit off with them if they don’t respond to our flowers, chocolate and champagne in quite the enthusiastic way we would have liked.

“Giving is an act of taking, and you have to be careful why you are doing it.” – David Heard

Families also have often been an area of duty or expectation. You might be invited to do something with the family, but the test is, were you to simply decline, would that be accepted as fine and an end to it, or would there be some come back? This is the test of whether there is freedom to give, in this case giving one’s presence to an event, and possibly even concession to a certain tradition, duty or way of life.

What other occurrences can we think of?

Does our UK Government give us the freedom to give taxes to contribute to the upkeep of the country? Or to drive at a desireable speed rather than be told what speed to drive at? Not yet, no, and at the current stage of man’s evolution, (2006), that may be fair enough if our consciousness and human development is not yet at a level whereby we can trust each of us and oursleves to regulate our own behaviour.

And so taxes are currently mandatory and speed limits are imposed. Enforced taxes may be a less elegant and less enlightened way to go about running a community, but Freedom to Give involves seeing the situation as it is. This includes knowing what level of development we are at, both individually and as a culture or human race.

So Freedom To Give is simply an awareness. The purpose of this article is simply to develop awareness so that we can make informed choices enlightened by that wisdom.

Our Self can give us the freedom to give also

 Above all, we have the choice to have freedom from the voice inside our head.

If the voice in my head asks or suggests to me; “Might today be a good day to work on Papillon and write the Freedom To Give message?” then I am free to do so if I wish to.

However, if I get an internal voice message such as “Time is getting on, you’d better do that piece today, you must do it today or you’ll be rubbish and the world will be no good!”, then it is up to me to remind myself that I make my own decisions which stem from within me outwards, and that an inner guide is there to do just that and only that; to guide. Not to demand, bully or guilt-trip.

And there will be some things which may apply to you.

Does your brain give you freedom to make money, the freedom to eat healthily, or does it demand it of you? These are the areas where we create the supportive environment in our minds for us to feel free to, and to be able to make the right decisions and choices if and when we are ready to. It is a great area to develop awareness of and watch the changes flourish when they are ready.

“I can’t give you that which you demand of me.” – Wayne Dyer

Best wishes, and best of luck with the freedom creating.

James Blacker, 6th April 2006.

See Also

  • Why Is Freedom To Give So Important?